Ha ha ha.. Don't confuse obnoxious with truthful, aight? While others come across as overly friendly, but end up being lame, I try to come across as pragmatic and hope that you can see the love that lies beneath.
There are two things I love doing.. exchanging emails and hanging out with my friends and hot guys. I am not really into talking with people on the phone. It's a conversation that never really begins or ends. I used to think that I sucked at it because I was shy, but now I realize that it's because most of the time, I don't have anything to say.
With email, you can hit someone up any time about anything. It can be long or short, and that person can answer you whenever s/he wants. You can go back and forth or not.. 'sall good.
When I'm on a date, I've clearly set aside a portion of my life to spend with this person. We do things together, we look at each other a lot, maybe we flirt, it's a lot of fun.
But when the phone rings, I'm always in the middle of doing something else. I'm either at work, so it's awkward to talk about personal stuff, or I'm at home, and I'm trying to eat supper or work on music or animation, and I'm not in the mood for talking. Sometimes I will be lying on the couch, and I'll call someone, but then THEY'RE usually out with their friends or eating dinner or so on. It's difficult, and it rarely works out.
The only people I really enjoy conversing with on the phone are my family and close friends. We're so close that we can jabber on and on about pretty much anything, and it's fun and exciting. I love everyone else, but if they live in NYC, then I'd rather just hang out face to face.. and if they live far away, then I'd rather just stick with emails.
The phone is best for organizing events.. "where are you?" "I'm on 40th and Lex." "Hey, are you free on Monday?" "No, Tuesday is best." "Okay." and so on.. not as much for "What's new in your life?" "Um... where to begin...?" ha ha ha
So remember, I do love you!!! In fact, by laying out a proper framwork, I'm making it easier for you to love me in ways I will appreciate the most. And of course, as with everything I say, there are plenty of exceptions to this rule.. nothing's written in stone. I'm curious.. maybe do many of you feel the same way? Or just the other introverts?
take care,
love, soce
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Your words are SO true! I thought I sucked at being on the phone, too (and maybe I do), but I think it's just because it's less-personal experience. I suppose some people can find it to be personal, but there is something IMPERSONAL, to me, about being forced into a conversation against your interest. It's kind of like Instant Messaging, too, when someone pops you a message and EXPECTS you to respond immediately. I hardly ever answer the phone and I hate using it as my means of remaining in contact with someone. I'd rather email you.
Maybe I'm just being a bitch. d'OH!
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